ok guys.am too tired *actually this is my brain talking.
i love to read ust zahazan's articles and ust azhar idrus's fiqh kuliyyah.both of them are positive people who so far using their knowledge instead the emotion on dakwah.
they speak facts.they speak only the thing that should be mattered.and they speak a good word.
i observed some trends of ppl regardless their career,have tendency to see in a negative and narrowed view.take an example,many people complaning about the declining attendance in Tarawikh towards the end of Ramadhan or performing Isya & Tarawikh in jamaah but not maghrib. again for me,if i am a masjid committe,i will welcome them instead of insinuating them.they come with the purpose to perform an ibadah.instead of have bad perception or su'u dhan it is better for me to have positive attitude on their attendance rite?they are guest of ALLAH and i didnt see any reason for me condemning them.and i believe if i do that,they will be run away again.rite?and again if it is because of my bad mouth they are turn away from masjid,did i do any good here?
secondly.ppl loves to comparing and set-up a benchmark which is sometimes is out of credentials and cant be generalize.*my lord!i sounds like reporting my findings*.given a situation: back from teaching at 6pm.rushing at home to start preparing iftar at 630 and by 715 still in the kitchen.and what i am doing is preparing food for my husband & kids'iftar.and again comparing it with reading mathurat at the same time frame?for me both action are inshaallah will be rewarded.i saw nothing wrong of ppl preparing foods for iftar.ALLAH promised reward for those preparing it right?why fuss then?and considering the uruf,Malaysian working hours and traffic and the way we cooked our food,it is almost 7+ ,we finished all the things.
thirdly.i prefer to use positive word instead of negative.for example.i would like to say :inshaALLAH,boleh!.because i put an effort to be boleh and at the same time i give all my strength to Him.psychologically,good word vibes positives attitudes and claiming that this is from western and refusing it is a bit naive.why shouldnt I take a good from the west and applied it?we have brain & mind to judge which one is good for us rite?instead of scaring myself and motivation about deathness,i prefer to see it this way : everyone is going to die.and to live is to do the best deeds.which will again helps us in akhirah.*instead of being sad,demotivated,i choose to be happy and embraced the facts that ill die someday.no doubts.
wht am trying to say is: there is no harm to be positive in dakwah.it is really up to us to change the mindset.